There are some changes in life that will cause you to feel displaced, abandoned, and alone. This is particularly true in the case of divorce. If you are currently going through a divorce, or if you are recovering from one, God wants to heal you so that you can become whole and live free of guilt.
Although God hates divorce, He does not hate the people who become divorced. There are some cases in which one spouse may elect divorce based on certain biblical exceptions, such as adultery (Matthew 19:9). Abandonment is also an exception. First Corinthians 7:15 (AMP) says: "But if the unbelieving partner [actually] leaves, let him do so; in such [cases the remaining] brother or sister is not morally bound . . ." In addition, physical, sexual, or mental abuse should never be tolerated. Jesus said in John 10:10 that He came to give us life more abundantly.
Regardless of the circumstance, God loves you and your estranged or former spouse. The moment you repent for your mistakes, He throws them into the sea of forgetfulness. When it comes to love and forgiveness, He's not like people. God is compassionate, and His love is unconditional.
At some point in life, you may encounter people who will remind you of your past mistakes. When they do, don't feel condemned. Instead, live your life in the freedom God provides. Romans 8:1 in the Amplified Bible says, "Therefore, [there is] now no condemnation (no adjudging guilty of wrong) for those who are in Christ Jesus, who live [and] walk not after the dictates of the flesh, but after the dictates of the Spirit." Seek God's guidance in every decision you make and keep moving forward.
Divorce is not only difficult for the partners involved; it is also a difficult time for the entire family, especially children. Many times they believe they are at fault. If your children are expressing feelings of guilt, take time to reassure them that they are not to blame. Shower them with love and affection and emphasize that God's love for them will never fail. Make every effort to co-parent with your former spouse for the children's sake and let healing begin. Healing is part of the abundant life God desires for you, your former spouse, and children. "He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds" (Psalm 147:3). God has great plans for your life, even now. Therefore, allow His love to heal and restore you.
For those of you who are married and contemplating divorce, I urge you to seek godly counsel before making a decision. Also, make the following confession:
Heavenly Father, thank You for granting me a spirit of wisdom and revelation, and giving insight into your ways of doing things. I yield to the direction of the Holy Spirit for every decision I make. My spiritual eyes are flooded with light. I know what to do in every situation I face; I am never lost when it comes to making decisions. I am filled with the knowledge of Your will for my life and I make wise choices. I acknowledge You before making any decisions, and I seek Your direction at all times. I am willing to stop if You tell me to stop or go when You tell me to go. Because I acknowledge You, You direct my footsteps, and I remain in the perfect will of God for my life. The Word is my final authority, and every choice I make lines up with it. I will not disregard the peace of God, which helps me to make decisions. I align my life with your Word; and therefore, I will remain connected to Your best for my life. Thank You for giving me Your Word and Your Holy Spirit, who guides me into all truth. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
Scripture References:
Ephesians 1:17, 18 Colossians 1:9 Proverbs 3:6 Colossians 3:15 John 16:13
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